TRANSFORM SELF-SABOTAGE INTO SELF-IMPROVEMENT
AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE COMPLETELY
What is Self-Sabotage? well it is when you undermine your own goals and values that lead to major problems in your life, work and relationships. One of the key reasons people self-sabotage is a lack of self-esteem . This can have many different causes, but the effects are the same: feelings of worthlessness or incompetence, the belief that you don't deserve success, and even self-hatred.
Why do I subconsciously self-sabotage?
It's not uncommon to self-sabotage to avoid the stress that comes from others' expectations. “Subconsciously, a person may fear rejection or ridicule from friends or loved ones if they don't achieve their goals,” says Pruden. Writer of Psych Magazine NY. For some, that pressure may lead to thoughts or behavior that result in self-sabotage
How many of us have a voice that tells us:
- "I'm exhausted! I don't make good decisions. I'm so confused. I'm not smart enough. I'm stupid."
- You are not going to make it! People don't understand you. I cannot trust anyone. I am worth nothing. I have to do all this by myself. "
- "I feel like it's all useless. I'm not good enough. Why don't they appreciate me? Why do I always have to put up these walls?"
- "I have a hole in my stomach. I have gained a lot of weight. There is clearly something wrong with me. There is something wrong with my body!"
- "I'm not important. I'll never be good enough. I'm always doing something wrong. People are always judging me. I can't trust anyone. I'm completely alone."
- "You won't make it. You're going to fail. Who do you think you are? I always have to please everyone. I never really say what I want to say."
We are going to change our false ways of thinking.
Here are eight tips to stop self-sabotaging:
- Let's look at how we think.
- Let's surround ourselves with people who can help us
- Let's break mediocrity
- We create a new way of life, let’s make changes
- Let's discover our inner voice and boost self -awareness
- Let's solve self-esteem problems
- Let's make a plan and put massive action.
- Know and embrace your strengths
- Set meaningful goals and pair them with action plan.
- Befriend yourself,
IN SUMMARY Self-sabotage is your brain’s way of trying to protect you from emotional pain.
If it’s no longer serving you, there are lots of options available to begin to change things. You can identify your patterns, come up with alternative action steps, and work with a mental health professional to help you achieve your goals.
Most importantly, as you transition to a new way of being, try to be compassionate to yourself.
We all act in ways that confirm the stories we tell about ourselves. “If you have internalized negative stories about yourself, that is painful and difficult. It’s natural to try to minimize future pain,” Pruden she says.
And once you know differently, you can do differently.
