Who hasn't had obstacles in their love life that get in the way of receiving and giving love? I’ve had.
At some point in my life, emotional barriers did a good thing where I was able to protect myself from impulsive or unhealthy relationships. Over time, I learned that they were only keeping me from experiencing the warmth and joy of feeling loved.
Doing some research, I discovered that love barriers sabotage our chances of experiencing love completely.
In reality, we may not have survived without protecting ourselves early in life. The good news is that we can rise above and move on to a much bigger, more empowering love life.
Remember that receiving love entirely is extremely important to loving entirely as well.
I want to clarify what the mental and emotional blocks are.
- Mental blocks are voices that tell us: I don't know the answer, I'm not assertive, I have trouble concentrating, I've tried everything, they won't love me, I'm not enough, I don't know what to do, I don't know how to make decisions, I don't come up with ideas, I'm not perfect.
These mental blocks can cause discomfort, low self-esteem, nervousness, prejudice, isolation, negativity, among other discomforts. If they are not taken care of to overcome them, then many times they get in the way of love and a healthy relationship.
- Emotional blocks are unresolved feelings from the past. They are wounds that haven’t been healed, wounds that open in the present and are motivated by uncomfortable situations. They remind us of the past and prevent us from experiencing a healthy relationship.
What happened to you as a child or how you’ve suffered in previous relationships could play a big role in your present self. Abandonment, abuse, neglect, physical/emotional punishment, betrayal, etc. If unresolved, it could bring feelings of anxiety, sadness, discomfort, and resentment leading to a block in emotions.
Be aware that sometimes there are emotional and mental blocks at the same time. What do I do? How do I start? Where do I go?
So let's ask ourselves what you need in your life.
Wake up that great desire to improve and be the best version of yourself.
- First let’s ask, where am I? How do I feel? Where do I start? What do I need to heal? If you find emotional and mental blocks, attend the emotional blocks first.
- Second, what is my objective? What is my goal? What do I want to achieve? A raise at work, internal peace, a solid, loving and passionate relationship, etc.
Envision your goals and define what you have to heal to feel 100% good.
If you feel anxious or depressed, it is logical that you want to get out of these feelings to be at peace, to improve yourself personally, to be better than you are and find someone beautiful being you in your best energy.
Read the below affirmations and see honestly how you feel about them:
I am responsible for my happiness.
I'm alone sometimes and I enjoy it.
I love my life as it is.
I work on myself and I am doing great.
I practice self-care.
I have overcome the guilt, and the shame of the guilt.
I feel I healed from everything that happened in my previous relationships.
I have become the best version of myself so I will attract who I am now.
I don’t have mental or emotional roadblocks.
Reflect on it, and see if these affirmations are truthful to you or if these causes you some discomfort because does not go with your true feelings, so pay attention to it. Right action will lead you to right thinking and feeling, and from there to more right action.
However, that might not do all the work. To accentuate changes in thinking and behavior, let's begin by receiving love well by practicing acts of love and service.
It is super important to raise our awareness of what is blocking our way of receiving love.
A 'red flag' can be when you experience dysfunction in your current relationship. You might ask yourself, "Could this be caused by one of my love blocks?"
So let's work on improving and developing healthy open and receptive love styles.
Start by giving genuine, healthy love by creating good self-care habits and go from there.
Practice everything that strengthens your way of giving love. I recommend reading books like "The Five Love Language" by Gari Chapman that talks about gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch and acts of service.
You have the power to be your best self and if you feel powerless, seek psychological or professional help. Congratulate yourself and value your changes no matter how small. Your progress is in your appreciation and gratitude. You can make your dreams come true and visualize a better life for yourself.
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In the light,
Ysabel Narro Llanes